Дата публикации: 2018-05-27 16:04
I can’t help but feeling betrayed by my mother and my husband. There has always been something lurking beneath the surface with them and since I haven’t been living with my husband for a long time, I guess she made her move and he couldn’t resist or maybe it was the other way around. Knowing I can’t go back to my life as it once was makes me miss it so much. My mother is the one having long talks with my husband at night, or going to a nice restaurant with him or the theatre and I am at a grubby pub every night with my alcoholic lover.
9. “I would choose my husband in a hundred lifetimes in any reality in any world. I would find him no matter what, and I would choose him.”
a) She 8767 s hurting and furious and lashing out.
b) The obsessively comparing bodies with her mother stuff comes from somewhere like possibly her mother. Think, Postcards From The Edge. Her mother who chose to fuck her husband. She 8767 s using 8775 hag, 8776 etc. because they are the words that would most hurt a vain mom.
c) Those attitudes are toxic but they aren 8767 t uncommon she didn 8767 t like, invent them, and being in pain is not always the time for a radical feminist awakening. Someone who was raised with the attitude that your worth is in your looks and youth is right on schedule with this look at how she talks about her own body, too. It 8767 s fucking sad more than it 8767 s offensive. There 8767 s time to learn if she can survive all this.
d) This ain 8767 t Reddit. If she says that stuff here, we 8767 ll deal with it.
8775 When the day turns into
the last day of all time,
I can say I hope you are
in these arms of mine.
I couldn 8767 t care less about your marriage. I care about your continuing to live. I hope you find help. I hope it comes soon.
When I finally got better (by the grace of God) and started earning money again, it all of a sudden became "we" again and I fell for it all over again. Why I didn't learn then I will never know. But I didn't. Now, on my third go-round with him, and having a small inheritance, he has gone after me with the viciousness and attentiveness and fortitude of a hunter and the hunted, telling me "how much I owe him" and making up budgets that leave me paying for every single thing because "he has to pay his debts."
Vivia Mar 59 7568 65:79 pm I love Uee in this drama. Her action was great, even when she cried, laughed and scared. This is a good movie to watch
Okay, taking a deep breath and assuming this is a real thing, LW, your husband dating your mom is a Burn-It-To-The-Ground, Extinction-Level Event. It seems like you kind of left your marriage by degrees, or at least, shoved it to the back burner, and your husband decided to force your hand, as it were.
I have to admit, my initial, knee-jerk reaction to the letter was vastly unsympathetic and entirely unhelpful. But having read her comments on reddit, I just feel sorry for her. She 8767 s spent the last eight months lying around drunk all day, now she 8767 s coming out of it and realising she isn 8767 t happy, she 8767 s lost her husband, and it 8767 s too late to do anything about it. And she can 8767 t even slink home to her mother to cry it out and try to put her life back together. I mean part of me still wants to shake her and yell GET HELP, but the poor thing. 😦
For all of us trying to survive.. And make things better with our ADD spouses. We see someone who hasn't committed and the overwhelming advice is cut and run! Love it.